As you’ll recall, we discussed “intention” in a previous post – focusing on a hamburger restaurant and the disconnect between their “intention” and reality.
Today I’m going to show you why your intention is meaningless without another very special ingredient. Be forewarned: This blog post – like many of my blog posts, will not sit well with the better part of my audience.
Intention is determined by the masses, not by the individual. Someone who is thrown under the spotlight for doing or saying something that is perceived to be “wrong,” will often comment that, “My intention was not to….”
If the masses believe that a certain action or comment goes against the grain of the establishment (aka “society”), then any good intention is simply worthless.
Why is this important?
Well…because most people who do things with “the best of intentions” tend to throw reasonable judgment out the window. It is COMPLETELY unreasonable to take any action (with the best of intentions) before creating the framework that establishes and then legitimizes your position.
Did you see the recent video of one of those large inflatables (often seen at a backyard birthday party or a fair) – with 13 kids inside, being tossed around like a feather in a tornado? Using that scenario as an example, what should have been done prior to allowing children access to that inflatable?
Can anyone say multiple 50 lb. bags of sand?
The 50 lb. bags of sand, along with some tie-downs, are – in this instance, what I am metaphorically referring to when I use the term framework.
When I present my 2011 HEADSPACE material to audiences, I always emphasize putting the framework before the intention. Most people – even the “experts,” do this incorrectly.
Yes – I know, it’s hard to believe that a big mouth, sexy bald guy like me, could actually have a BETTER way of doing things than all the experts, but the truth is the truth. I know more than they do, and I am not afraid to make a very declarative statement to that end.
Here’s an example that many of you may be able to relate to:
My wife has an incredible figure. She is 5’7″ and all legs. Her skin tone is toward the lighter side, or what she refers to as being “pasty.” I don’t think she’s “pasty” – but she certainly doesn’t have a dark complexion. Her skin tone is beautiful.
As someone who has a background in professional photography in his arsenal, I DO know a thing or two about color and lighting. My wife looks great in darker-brighter colors, and looks “less good” in lighter-earth tones (they wash her out). We were out shopping one day (about six months into our relationship), and she was trying on some shirts. Everything she tried on made her look washed out. It was taking away from her beauty.
I felt the need to say something, but I knew things COULD go very bad for me if I said what NEEDED to be said (with “the best of intentions”) in a way that was – shall we say, less graceful.
I COULD have said…
“Oh my god…you look horrible!!!”
Instead, I preceded my comments with the framework – presented NOT in some random fashion, rather, presented in a strategic manner such that Katy would understand the nature and “intention” of my comments.
Sixteen years later, in 2011, Katy has an excellent understanding of what colors really show of her beauty. She avoids colors that not only detract from her appearance, but also detract from her mood. Most of the “experts” out there go with “red makes you feel upbeat and gray makes you feel down,” but this comes from folks who just DON’T KNOW the relationship between color and application.
Side Note: Did you know that there are color schemes that MUST match skin tone, and MUST be selected depending on the nature of the circumstance. For example, did you know that selling real estate, selling a professional service (i.e. chiropractic, accounting, etc.), and selling jewelry all have different color code requirements? Did you know that – whether you want to believe it or not, nearly 100% of your prospective clients, customers, and patients will push you toward a “YES” or “NO” (with regard to their receptivity of your offering) depending on your color code – including the selection of cosmetics for the ladies??
Framework precedes intentions, in the same way that structure of a bedroom determines the size of the mattress. If you have a bedroom that’s 10′ x 13′ – and you’re wanting a king mattress, then you are going to be very disappointed (lol).
Would you like to do something GREAT for those special folks in your life? Here’s a great idea: Tell them to read this blog post. I am not asking anyone to buy anything, rather, lending perspective to areas of life that often need Dr. Marc’s brand of clarification.
Have A GREAT Day!
…Dr. Marc – MIND VIRUS